Congratulations!! New Mother in Law/MIL, Don't Be Scared, There is a Tip inside: Part-1

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As you all know I write mostly about topics related to marriages, matrimonial and relationships, Today, I am going to explore about the most important and crucial aspect which plays a major role in any marriage and lead to successful married life. Here, I am talking about the person who plays a major role in any family and that person is the mother in law, here we are specifically talking about groom's mother or say boy's mother.

A few days back I got a call from one of my esteemed client whose son marriage just got finalized before lockdown, she said that she wants herself to be good with her Daughter in Law and want some consultation and advice if I need to change something or mould my behaviour or anything which is necessary for this modern time but in my opinion, she is a wonderful lady, She is educated, kind-hearted simple humble and down to earth maybe that is why she is more concerned for her would be Daughter in law and want to be a good mother in law/MIL.

So just to keep it short and simple here are few things or qualities I would like to share and discuss
Do read till the end and share with as many mothers in-laws:
So now let's move forward and say your son got married and now your Daughter in law is there at your house the first thing you need to do is:

GIVE HER FREEDOM & SPACE:
The Foremost thing you should take care of is that give her freedom and space, as you said before marriage, you need a daughter and not a daughter in law so here is your chance to treat her like your own daughter. Also, give her space so that she can work on her own and there is a perception among mothers that now "My son has been married and he will only be of his wife." which is wrong, instead, you should take this on a positive note that this a plus point for you and clear yourself make yourself understood that now you have a daughter too. If you truly consider her a daughter then treat her well, you might be having a daughter or must have seen how a daughter is loved and cuddled in families, if you do so then guaranteed your family will be happy and there will be a complete bliss in your family relationships.

Secondly, talking about space, we know what space is but we don't understand it clearly, so now for eg: say  25 years ago when you got married (You here is for MIL's) maybe you were working or non-working but what your generation has done this generation needs a different approach to everything so now your daughters-in-law are working and independent, and after completing their post graduations they were focused on their career and goals, they are not so used to cooking and household activities like you were, they can do all the things and they will do everything but remember they have time constraints but surely you both can do wonderful things together.


Also if the husband shares household activities with her wife then there is no harm, it's actually great and healthy for their life and relationship any way you are Modern MIL, Be happy Be Positive, In the End, Your Family will be there always supporting you.

So I guess this is enough for today and will share more soon with you lovely readers.

Stay Grateful & Stay Healthy.


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