Relationship betterment Skills

Proper interaction is essential in every relationship. Not expressing your opinions and emotions to the people in your life will result in incomplete problems. A lack of communication is often the cause of a breakup. If you don’t communicate about things, they will never get resolved. Maybe it’s that you feel like you and your partner don’t see eye to eye. Or possibly one person is doubtful of how to communicate correctly. Communication issues are common. But fortunately, they can also be immediately resolved by taking the right steps. Are you finding that you and your partner are fighting because of a lack of communication? Here are ways you can improve your relationship:

Make the time

Often, life can get hectic, and you can find yourself striving to make the time actually to talk to your spouse. Maybe you’re starting a new job. Perhaps you’re moving- whatever it is, there’s no denying that life gets busy. But, it’s crucial to build in time to interact with your partner. Just setting up time every day to talk with one another, even just for a little bit, can make a huge difference. You have to take the time to communicate with your partner properly.

Listen to them

Nothing is more frustrating than talking to someone who you feel like isn’t listening to you. Put your phone away, turn off the TV, and shut off any disturbances when you’re talking with your partner. A good listener is a quality we all want in a partner, and it’s a quality that can be worked toward. A key to the great conversation is an equal listening to talking ratio. It’s wrong if one person gets to rant all the other time and the other person can hardly get a word in. Listening and thoughtfully answering to your partners’ words will make all the difference.

Be attentive

It’s easy to think that you’re always right. When you disagree with someone, it can be hard to see another person’s point of view, particularly if you’re usually a headstrong person. However, being attentive of your words and tone of voice can drastically improve communication in a relationship. Everyone is different, and the way you say something might sound casual to you, but your partner can come off as mean. It’s crucial to be attentive, so you don’t end up unintentionally hurting someone’s sentiments.

Use “I” statements

When you’re fighting with someone, often we resort to giving people the cold shoulder. Or, we blame them for anything and continuously use the word “you.” Using “I” statements is important in improving communication skills because it’s the most efficient way to explain your emotions. If you and your partner are fighting, start by saying: “I feel hurt because…” and go from there. That way, there is no blaming, and rather, you can easily resolve your feelings.

Remind your spouse why you love them

If there’s one thing I try to always stay true to in life, it’s to never go to bed mad at someone. Even if you and your spouse got into a heated argument and a resolution doesn’t seem like it’s happening that day, try to make a point of finding a settlement as soon as possible. Reminding your partner why you love them, even years into a relationship is the key to a long, healthy, and happy relationship. No one wants to feel like the sparks have faded. Reminding your partner why you love them is important in keeping the love growing.