Myths about marriage

Myths about marriage overflow. Some myths come from Mod culture. For example, a persistent myth is that your relationship should come easy when you’re with “the one.” Other misconceptions may be conveyed closer to home inside our own families. If your parents couldn’t argue without shouting and throwing insults, you might think that all conflict is bad and characterized by confusion. If your parents constantly argued with your grandparents and made remarks condemning all in-laws, you might expect to fight with yours.

If your family had powerful beliefs about what a good marriage looks like and forwarded these beliefs constantly, you might’ve internalized them yourself.

The dilemma with myths is that when we confuse them for facts, they can hamper our partnerships. 

• Myth: Your real love will automatically know what to say and do to make you happy.

Fact: “There is a concern that if you have to ask for something then it doesn’t ‘count’ or it’s not as meaningful,” However as our spouses can’t read our minds, each of us needs to express our needs in a marriage.

Communication also is key when couples encounter conflict or detachment. After a misunderstanding, many spouses will let their “anger build while silently expecting that their loved one will figure out what they did wrong or think it’s so obvious that they shouldn’t have to spell it out.”

Again, couples must learn to express their feelings and be true. In general, it’s crucial to put your relationship first, because “it doesn’t happen magically. You have to make it a priority and have conversations with each other.

• "Myth: Happy couples don’t fight.

Fact: Each of us enters into marriage with distinct expectations want concerns and experiences from our families or past relationships. Naturally, “miscommunication is bound to follow.”

In fact, “a lack of arguing means a lack of integrity and emotional intimacy.” When couples don’t argue, they make all kinds of emotional compromises — everything from how they communicate to how they approach time with their extended families.

This also erodes confidence and triggers feelings of disgrace. “Each person in the relationship — children included — will feel the unclear tension or a sense of ‘stepping on eggshells’ in the home but feel powerless or afraid to admit it handle it.” This makes the marriage and family “feel unstable.”

Good couples do argue. But they don’t “explode, hit below the belt, or use fighting as a tool to gain control in the relationship.”.“The healthiest couples also seek to settle quarrels, can adjust to the decisions, and then can to forgive and move on.”

Nobody can foretell the future. You just have to give your all to the relationship you're in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love you have. I think one of the most important things in a relationship is caring for your significant other through good times and bad. Revisit us for more demystify myths with the truth about marriage.