Marriages in India

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Marriages in India

Recently, I read an article about how a girl thinks that she would not make a good 
"Indian bride" and gave her reasons for the same which I thought were laughable. But after researching a bit more I was shocked as to how right she was.
For instance, people in India still expect the girl to take the boy's surname for no other reason than to stoke their own ego. The girl has to be well educated but after her marriage, she should sit at home and give up her career for which she has worked her whole life. What kind of bullshit is that? 


Marriage advertisements have become nothing short of a sale. They read "Young girl, 25 years in age, beautiful, educated, good cook, has Indian values, does not have male friends". Of course because if a girl has friends other than girls she can only be a loose character kind of girl can't she? 

Is this the face of modern India? 

Our Country India has developed to become the largest hypocrite country of the world. We ramble on how superior we have become, how modern we are. But in reality, are we advancing when we have the same intellect as the people did a century years ago. Girls are still supposed to stay at home, not have a say in any of the family affairs, not communicate to men other than those of her family and several crazy rules which I cannot even include. And the most critical part is that even many of the intelligent guys also want this sort of girls for god alone knows what reasons. When will we grow up enough to accept that girls are meant to be our companions and not someone who is our assistant, someone with whom we walk with at our sides and not lead on like a dog? When will that happen, I am asking you?
All the ridiculous demands for dowry, changing of surname, giving up the careers for families, accepting love and inter-caste marriages that have to happen for India to progress because only when everyone progresses will India progress.

Think about it guys, would you accept a girl just because you love her and ask her not to give up her identity and girls, well I hope you can find a man who appreciates how YOU want to live your life with him and not vice versa.

Location: Delhi, India

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