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Should your spouse be your best friend?

He’s like my best friend.”“She’s the best friend in my life.”
These are common statements and beliefs about a relationship with our spouse.That they must be our friend, no, best friend — as well as all the other roles a spouse plays in marriage.While I don’t discount that there should be friendship between husband and wife, having him or her as your best friend will be the death-nail to the marriage.To clarify, I’m referring to best friend here as a primary and/or sole outlet of your relational needs. When you first met your spouse, ideally you were both living lives that were fulfilling and interesting (note the emphasis on “ideally”— if you and/or your spouse didn't have a lot going on when you first met, the relationship was already in really big trouble). One reason your spouse was attractive was the life they were living apart from you. The lives you were living before you met were an important part of what made each of you who you were.As you began spending more time together…